As I continue to work with marriage preparation, I am reminded that I have plenty of apprehension about parenting someday. Couples are encouraged to discuss sex, intimacy, and parenting before they get married. Honestly, the prospect of having to teach my potential future children about sex is terrifying. Simcha Fisher wrote about her plans over at the Register this week, and I remember reading an old post from Nod about the same with his son (he asked his son to help him fix the stair railing so they could focus on something active while they talked).
I hope this is the kind of challenge that seems terrifying at first but is ultimately awesome. I really hope so.
I stumbled across a new blog, Seraphic Singles. Not one week after I decided it was interesting enough to follow, the author responded to a reader letter regarding interracial dating. This is how I know God loves me.
I object to the term “color-blind” (everyone sees race unless they’re literally blind—it’s how you respond that’s important), but I otherwise identify completely with that reader. I’ve felt sometimes that people make a similar assumption about me (that I’d only be interested in dating black men. That is patently untrue. I’d consider anyone, regardless of his race. My most recent ex-boyfriend was half white and half Asian. My family had no problem with that; my uncle’s wife is white. Figuring out whether someone is open to interracial dating is like figuring out whether a woman prefers “Miss,” “Ms.” or “Mrs.”: it’s an awkward situation that can only be resolved by just asking.
(For the record, I do not have a problem with people who legitimately aren’t attracted to people outside their own race. I am just not one of them.)
Another unfair assumption people make about me is that, because I work for the Church, I must be planning to become a nun. That’s not true, either. It might be in my future, but I don’t feel that call. You know what happens when you assume.
On a decidedly lighter note, check out this sweet video montage of How I Met Your Mother clips. I’m ready for this show to start winding down, but man, it just continues to be…
In the spirit of sharing random items from my “I should blog about this” list, here is a list of 100 general intercessions for promoting vocations. I like that it runs the gamut from specific (number 49, helping the celibate be radically available) to general (number 95, which will be very appropriate for the upcoming Year of Faith) to obvious (number 77, that parents will encourage vocations). I wish I prayed in community more often so I could toss some of these in!
Here another old article (from 2010, ouch!) about the value of reading the Bible. What’s unique about this article is that it encourages not just following along with the readings from the lectionary for daily Mass, and not just reading the New Testament (as many evangelicals would recommend), but reading the whole thing. I committed to doing just that about five years ago, and though I just passed the halfway mark a few months ago and never manage to read every day, I haven’t given up. Some of the historical books are actually pretty fascinating. I use the Coming Home Network’s plan [PDF] to break it up (read: avoid getting bogged down in the Old Testament).
New Year’s Day was months ago. Consider making an everyday resolution.
I love language. As such, I often get called into discussions with people about “correct” or “proper” words, grammar, spelling, and so on. In general, my answer is that the language that government, education, and business use is what most people consider “correct,” but if you can be understood and respected by the people around you at any given time, your language is fine.
The tricky thing is that English is a living language. “Google” was not a verb until the last ten years or so, and it wasn’t even a search engine before that, and before that, it was only a number spelled “googol”. Other countries have official government agencies that determine what is correct and what is incorrect in terms of language; there is no official English.
English is always changing—even Her Majesty’s. I dug up this old (well, last summer) BBC article about Americanisms creeping back over to the country we “borrowed” our language from. (Language borrowing amuses me. Did we plan to give it back sometime?) The article is worth reading, especially when the author gets to baseball. Do they even have baseball in England?
On a related note, here is one of the single most useful YouTube videos I have ever seen (although the narrator, like Jason Evert, talks too fast). It clears up the difference between England, the UK, and Great Britain. (It’s okay if you never knew they weren’t all the same thing. Now you can impress your friends at parties.)
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