Monthly Archives: August, 2006

Marriage on My Mind

Two of this week’s Boundless articles referenced men, women, and marriage. Candace Z. Watters uncovers new research showing that there really are not 11 million more single Christian men than women. Of course, my Catholic sense starts tingling when I read about the number of men and women who would describe themselves as “born again.” (Those aren’t sneer quotes. They’re the ordinary kind.) I wouldn’t describe myself as “born again” or “saved.” I am a Christian because I believe that Jesus Christ is/was the Son of God, but I would describe myself as “Catholic.” These days, that adjective can mean everything or nothing. I’m pretty traditional, so I might go for “Catholic Christian” as a stretch. Overall, I would reason that most of the men in that survey are not Catholic, and therefore less likely for me to marry.

Reading about single Christian women searching for Christian husbands always strikes me just so. Four years ago, if you’d asked me whether I hoped to marry, I would have said yes, despite having never dated anyone. Two years ago, I would have avoided the question because I was dating, but not even out of high school. I wasn’t ready to address that with anyone but my boyfriend, and I hadn’t yet come back to church. Six months ago, I would have said that I was discerning religious life. I didn’t even wonder why I wasn’t dating; I was busy praying. And today, I would say that I have no idea. After the conversations over lunch during the Shrine and Dine, I realized that I’m not ready to discern my vocation. I still pray for that specifically; don’t get me wrong, if the answer’s coming, I want to hear it. The problem is that I’m not ready to hear it. I don’t know how to hear it. (I’ve written about this already.) I know Maura might find the news that there are potential husbands out there especially encouraging. For the moment, I’m just trying to stay focused on my spiritual growth and catechesis. I had an encounter last week that made me wonder, but with a new semester coming up, I’m just bracing myself for the next transition.

The second article was another installment of “Office Hours,” by the incomparable J. Budziszewski. He finished up his article on how men and women are intrinsically different, and how that is a very good thing. It’s hard to comment on what he said because I’m not even sure I can wrap my head around it. It’s thought-provoking and well-written and real. (The first part was published last month; start there.)

Five Hundred and Friday Five

Via F5 at LJ. This is actually the set from last week, but I don’t have answers for this week’s, so there you go.

1. How much time do you spend on the Internet daily? Ha. Too much. At least three or four hours. I am such a mouse potato.
2. What are your favorite 3 websites? The Leaky Cauldron, FictionAlley, and … it’s hard to pick a site that’s not also a blog, so I’ll go with Nothing Less, which has the best design and organization I’ve ever seen.
3. Do you eat at your computer? Not really. I snack, sometimes I’ll drink water. At school, my computer is on my desk, which is the only good place for putting food, so I just hope I won’t knock something over.
4. Pick one and why – Reading the news online or in a newspaper? I rarely come across real newspapers, so I get most of my news online by default. I’m fond of wrestling big pages of newsprint when I get the chance, though.
5. How many people are on your instant messenger buddy list? 36. I’ve never had a lot, and I have to keep it trimmed down to help with my away message-stalking habit.

Also, according to WordPress, this is my 500th post. If I’d noticed, I would have made it more of a milestone, but I’m not sure having five hundred posts is such a good thing. A lot of the early ones are just online quiz results. :x

On Women as Priests

Rocco Palmo’s latest “Almost Holy” column is up at BustedHalo. The quality of his writing is consistently impressive. I like his voice, though I’m not really into the Vatican-watching aspect of his blog. This week, he comments on the latest batch of women who think they’ve been ordained as priests:

If you look at the polls, you’ll hear that 70% of Catholics questioned would support a change of the Church’s teachings to allow the ordination of women to the priesthood.

In the days before Gallup, an ancient ruler in the Middle East once took a poll of his own. Hearing the leanings of the crowd, he went ahead with their will… and crucified Jesus. So remember that polling isn’t always the best means of policy-setting.

So what do I think about all this? I think it’s a shame these women have the wrong idea about ordination. I don’t think women should be priests. Jesus had male and female disciples, but after praying to His Father, he chose only men to be his apostles. Modern priests are the successors of the twelve apostles. They were all men, so today’s priests should all be men. In addition, Jesus loved His mother so much that He made it possible for her to be bodily assumed into heaven (which we celebrate next Tuesday). If He didn’t make His own mother a priest, why should ordinary women today be priests? For most of you, I’m sure I’m preaching to the choir, but the whole concept almost makes me ashamed to share the adjective “Catholic” with those women. (Though it should be noted that these “womenpriests” get excommunicated from the Church, whether they think they are or not.)

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Catholic Carnival

This week’s Catholic Carnival is up at Those of you with particularly good memories may remember that he wrote the Rosary series I love so much. I was excited that he was hosting the carnival the first week I submitted a post for inclusion.

Highlights of this edition:

  • Owen (host of the Catholic Catechism Dialogue Blog, a concept I like but didn’t latch onto) describes his conversion through poetry for a friend. It may be the best conversion story I’ve ever read, and I love reading conversion stories.
  • A Penitent Blogger comments on Monday’s Mass readings. I read them aloud to myself every day for lectoring practice and because I think they’re experienced best when read aloud. I was surprised to see an entire chapter as a reading, but the story of Jeremiah versus Hananiah really can’t be split into parts.
  • Louis of A Catholic Hart muses on God’s infinite love for us. It really is impossible to imagine how anyone could keep loving us despite all the terrible things we do.


Vatican changes dates for 2008 Annunciation, St. Joseph feasts: Whoa. I’m okay with moving the Feast of St. Joseph. Its tie to a particular date isn’t as strong. The Annunciation, however, is supposed to be a specific date. Nine months before Christmas Day: it makes sense that way. I’d expect a homily for the Annunciation to make note of that correlation, but now that option will be gone in 2008. Sure, the octave of Easter is important, but can’t the Annunciation share one day of that time?

An old editorial from Ignite Your Faith (Christianity Today for teens) struck me as particularly insightful. The point she makes about missing parts of our spiritual lives is worth noting.

Lorelle (what a pretty name!) wrote a good blog post commenting about how not to comment. Along with the Harris Twins Blog Commenting Policy, that’s pretty much all you need to know to make commenting happy and fun (or at least useful).

Ninety Years of Faith and Vision

Despite my strong dislike for getting up early when I don’t have to, I rolled out of bed before the sun on Saturday morning. I’ve never been an officer before, so I am determined to make the most out of my position as financial secretary for our CDA court. That meant volunteering to attend the Maryland State Catholic Daughters of the Americas 90th Anniversary Celebration. I’d never been to a big CDA event before, since I was inducted after the annual tea party, so I was excited but tired.

(A quick explanation: CDA is like the Knights of Columbus, but for women. The Knights founded us as the Daughters of Isabella just over 100 years ago. We have courts and regents the way they have councils and grand knights, like ordinary clubs have chapters and presidents.)

I got out the door a bit later than I’d intended, but Kaitlyn and Christina were ready to go when I got to the CSC and we headed for the highway. We found St. Philip Neri with no trouble at all, thanks to MapQuest. As it turned out, arriving at 9am meant we were so early that no other Daughters were there yet. We walked through the church hall awkwardly until I saw someone. “Look, there’s a woman in white!” I said, smoothing my own white dress. “Let’s follow her!”
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Heroes on the Half-Shell

The boys of Catholicae Testudines linked to the omnipresent YouTube the other day. What video, might you ask, did they link? A full-length Tridentine Mass, with narrative explanation? Well, no. The CT boys went for a TMNT teaser trailer!

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