I realize that it is Saturday, but I refuse to let the F5 get away from me for more than a day, even if the title is “love with a question mark,” like J.Lo’s new CD. Seriously, when you have to announce the title of your CD as such, that should be a hint that your voice inflections need work and so does that title.
- How many times have you been in love? I loved my ex. I don’t think it was ever going to last for life. Even if I had wound up wanting to marry him (which would have been a train wreck), I’d like to think marriage preparation would have weeded out the issues that contributed to our breakup. I may have only been nominally Catholic at the time, but I’d still have wanted to get married in the Church, and you can’t really do that overnight.
- When is the appropriate time to first say that you are? I don’t know. I don’t even remember how long it took me. Let’s say that if you’re not willing to introduce him or her to your family as your boyfriend or girlfriend, thereby inviting inquiries into your future marriage, it’s too soon to say the L-word. You only put up with family if you’re in it for the long haul.
- Do you think it is a good idea to live with a significant other before you are married? No. Not at all. Future spouses should not be tested out like cars or simple roommates. If you’ve already intertwined your lives, what’s left for marriage? A blessing and a piece of paper? How can you expect that to make you stay together if you didn’t need it to be together in the first place?
- How soon is too soon to move in together? Always. I was actually just rereading a Gchat conversation I had with an ex-boyfriend that wandered onto that very topic. It confirmed my suspicion that all I can do with an ex (all both of them) is argue.
- When do you think you will get married? OR Favorite Vegetable? :) I am going to ignore the second question and the smiley face that’s apparently supposed to mean it’s okay because it’s cute. It’s not. Regarding the first question, I don’t know. I have read advice that suggests if you can’t see yourself married and expecting children within two years, you shouldn’t consider any relationship more than a close friendship and you should treat it accordingly. Right now…I can see that.