Okay, Friday Five, what’s with the relationship questions lately? Are you trying to tell me something?
- Do you consider yourself romantic? Why? No. I like being romanced, but one of the many problems I had in previous relationships was trying to figure out how to reciprocate. It’s something to work in for the future, I hope.
- Has your partner or any person in your past informed you that you were romantic? How did you take it? No, but that’s probably because I’m not. See #1.
- If your partner has told you that the romance has left the relationship, would you do anything to bring it back? What would you do to re-ignite the romantic spark? Well, it seems like romance is easiest to find at the times when the status of the relationship changes: it’s just beginning, it’s just become exclusive or official, it’s heading toward marriage. To get the spark back, I would probably try to recreate the actions and emotions around those turning points. There doesn’t necessarily have to be a new level of the relationship on the horizon, but a reminder of how it got to its current state could help. It’s like writing love letters at the beginning of a marriage to be read if divorce seems inevitable. You need a reminder of how you got to where you are.
- Do you think you can have romantic feelings for more than one person, either at the same time or in a lifetime? Yes. Feelings are tricky, because they can be powerful and we usually can’t control them. We must control how we act on them, though. If you’re committed to someone (in dating, but especially in marriage), then you have to honor that commitment regardless of your feelings. No one made you commit, so you have to live with your decision for better or for worse.
- Is there anyone in your past (or present) that you feel romantic toward that is not your partner? I’m not dating anyone, so anyone I feel romantic toward would be “not my partner.” That is all I have to say about that.